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Sunday, September 6, 2009

I control my thoughts???

In 1997, I had a friend who gave me a book called "You Can Heal Your Life" by Louise Hay. This was a life changing book for me. It was the first time that I ever really heard the concept of our thoughts creating things in our life and body.

At that time in my life I felt like a victim... I believed I was a victim... I thought like a victim... and I lived like a victim. There were a lot of unpleasant things I had gone through and I could always find a way to blame someone or something else. "I was innocent and all these horrible things just 'happened' to me by chance". I had a firm belief that I deserved these bad things and that it was my lot in life to suffer as much as possible and then just endure to the end.

Somehow I believed that the more I suffered and felt pain FOR EVERYTHING then that must mean that somehow I am really strong! I almost held my trials as a badge on my sleeve to show that I could endure such hardships. "Satan must work extra hard on me", I thought. "I only need to endure to the end and because I had suffered so much in this life - surely God would reward me in the next"

I almost cannot believe I ever had such a warped view on the truth... but I did.

After I read this book, I began practicing some of the principles in my life. There was one part of the book in particular that was extremely difficult for me. I was supposed to try an experiment where I looked at myself in the mirror. Then I was supposed to gaze into my own eyes and tell myself that "I love you, just the way you are" (or something along those lines).

So I braced myself in front of the mirror. I couldn't look up at first, only stare at the sink. Then slowly I lifted my eyes and as I considered looking into my eyes, I started BAWLING!! Not only could I NOT say the words "I love you" but I could not even look at myself!! I worked on it for about fifteen minutes and finally settled on looking at my shoulder in the mirror and saying the words.

I thoroughly hated myself. I realized that whenever I did look at myself, I only told myself how ugly, fat, horrible, mean, stupid, lazy, inferior, and worthless I was!! How completely sad!!

So this is where I began my journey. I worked on this EVERY time I walked by a mirror or reflective surface. I would stop in mid-verbal-abuse-mode and correct my thoughts saying things like "I love you" or "You look pretty today" or "You are a beautiful daughter of God" or "You are doing great today". At first, I could feel my insides screaming "YOU LIAR!" but slowly my thoughts and body unified their message and I started to feel better.

There are many AMAZING things that come into your life when you are thinking positive and faithful thoughts. I have seen the power of thinking correctly and mastering your thoughts. I believe this is one of the MOST important things we can learn in this life. If I could give advice to anyone it would be -

Watch your thoughts...
Stop when you are thinking negative thoughts...
Correct the thought to something that is more fitting to your goals...
Choose to think more positively the next time...

I have been able to learn to love myself, overcome serious depression, change harmful habits and patterns, love others exactly as they are, feel peace when life is raging around me, heal broken relationships, and the list can go on and on and on and on.

I know that your life can be changed, too. I know mine has...


  1. You're SO right- it all starts with our thoughts.

    Have you read page 62 of the October 2009 Ensign, "Truth & Lies"? I feel like it was written just for me!

  2. No, I haven't read it yet... but I will! Thanks for the heads up. :)

  3. Thoughts are powerful things whether we admit it or not. Thanks for sharing your experiences with us all!

    Martina you are the bomb!

  4. Martina-you are AWESOME!!! Thanks for sharing!